Preparing Doesn't Make It Happen

While living our everyday lives we don't want to think about dying. Planning for that time is not natural or desirable at all.  However, having "The" conversation, doesn't make dying happen. As a matter of fact it makes living easier.

Things to consider doing for yourself and family:
Talk about what you would want should you be encountered with an illness or catastrophic event. DNR, ( do not recessitate, donating organs etc,)

• Cremation or burial?
• funeral, memorial, no service?
• See a lawyer and put everything into a revocable trust so that you avoid probate.  Probate could take the majority of what you leave to your loved ones.  And, your home should also be in a trust.
• Have a credit card in your name as the primary cardholder.  When social security gets a hold of the information of the passing, your bank accounts can be frozen to protect you from identity theft.

Now for the tough stuff:

Don't leave anything undone or unsaid on a daily basis.

If you have baggage to deal with, don't wait, start today

Don't get caught up on the "busy" life.  If you find that word coming out of your mouth daily, do something about it.  You won't want to deal with "busy" later.

Make time for each other daily

Touch each other everyday with a hug

Say I love you everyday

The list goes on.....

Matt lived his life with no regrets, we always knew where each other stood on everything.  We were never afraid to say anything because our marriage was blessed with unconditional love. This is not to say we didn't disagree however mutual respect was the basis of our relationship.  Although we lived the "busy" life, Matt would be the first one in our family to real it in, and each season of life we would evaluate the "busy".  ("Busy is very easy to hide behind).

Hope this helps